Two sets of Friends...

Everyone needs at least two sets of friends.

Well, the reason behind this is simple. Each group of friends play a different role in your life.

I realised that in a Cell Group, people are more caring and more serious in their relationship with one another. This is normal because everyone is there to contribute to the direction of the Cell, which is to minister to one another, and to share the good news. In a cell group/small church group, members are always showing you the negative side of their life. People come to cell group prepared to share, and to care for one another. This is supposed to lift everyone's spirits, and members should be open to share each others problems. But this is subliminally negative. When people share to you their problems, it sends out negative vibes. Although it is vital for mental support and spiritual growth, one cannot live off this group solely.

The second set should be casual friends where you just have fun with, no strings attached. Where their cares are taken cared of by someone else. This is to balance the negativity that you get from the first group.

Now, when you're in a group of people who are always sharing with you their worries, and you care for them, and share their hurts, you are getting negative vibes. Therefore, sometimes, they will seem to be nothing more than whiners. Sometimes, their needs are so immense that you tend to see them as the problem. You meet them, and go "sigh, it's him/her again." And if your life revolves only around such people, you are going to be a real sad case.

That's why sometimes, it is good to be able to just have fun with a few friends who do not know your sad cases. They look at you from a more positive light, and you don't know their worries either. All you are concerned with is a good game of basketball with each other, or a good session of 'yumchar' where all you chat about is maybe the latest trend in fashion, or the most stupid thing you've done in the past week. You just have fun together, no seeing the negatives in life.

These people make life fun. They inject joy into your life. And being with them (because you know nothing of their problems) you don't see their problems when you see them. Although it is a superficial relationship, it is a lifting change from the gloom of negativity in your life.

No one will be able to live a balanced life with negativity all around. No matter how big a heart you have for your friends, no matter how much you can try to care for everyone beside you, sometimes, you need to purposefully inject some positivity into your life.

So go out and make a 'fun friend' today.